If you are struggling to lose weight, I can assure you I have no more motivation nor willpower than you. Just a plan, and I'm stickin' to it. My plan is more rigorous than some, but less rigorous than many. I drink alcohol on weekends, and regularly exceed my ideal calorie limit by a "little", but sugar is pretty much in my past and I don't have "cheat days". You can find a plan that works for you!
Weather in western PA is beyond shitty and I would like to immerse myself in wine and food, but I will not. They claim the sun will shine tomorrow, but I am not holding my breath.